If you’re mentally and physically strained, it’s hard to keep positive.
At the beach last week, I overheard a young man say to his friend “life just comes easy sometimes”. You could hear the confidence in his voice, and the gratitude for his life. He was appreciative, because in that moment, he was in a state of well being.
Take that experience, and throw me into this week, where I’ve developed a severe rash all over my body from a sudden allergic reaction. It has felt like fire across my skin, and is unpleasant to the degree of agony.
Fighting for the urge to feel good again, it’s amazing how I noticed that I take my health for granted.
Now you may or may not have either of those two feelings, from bliss to dismay, but it’s worth considering the question, “why am I making life so hard?”
When you answer; if you decide to answer, pick apart what’s a wasted excuse from those that are valid. You should eventually come to one conclusion. And if that is anything beyond a reflection of “it doesn’t have to be”, then you’re only fooling yourself.
Rumination refers to the tendency to repetitively think about the causes, situational factors, and consequences of one’s negative emotional experience — Nolen-Hoeksema, 1991.
We’ve all done it. Our mind is racing, unable to break free from this passionate distaste of emotion.
The only way out is to take responsibility. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt for your future, and don’t trouble over the past. Then you will find an easier life. And to double the pleasure, it’s one that you’ve created.